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When Pinterest Becomes the Enemy.
There comes a time during wedding planning when Pinterest is no longer your friend. It is no longer the source of inspiration for a beautiful celebration. No. It is now a place that gives you doubt about all the decisions you have already made.
Are you sure about those peonies? I think these dried flower bouquets are more your style.
You picked those bridesmaids dresses? Mismatched is the new style. You should join in.
Are you really going to wear that dress? This one would look amazing on your body type.
You already have all your ceremony decor? Send it back. Time to DIY everything.
Pinterest is now the little devil on your shoulder, whispering in your ear. It may seem harmless, but it only adds to the stress.
So log out of Pinterest.
And when you’re having doubts about decor, your dress, etc, consult the little angels on your shoulder. Your wedding planner and/or Maid of Honor will give you the honest truth and help you deal with any problems.
Once you start making the big decisions, it’s time to say goodbye to Pinterest for a while.
-Southern Wedding Style
Alright, a while back when I talked about getting healthy I said I would write about the skincare I use. I didn’t actually start using this until I was about half way into wedding planning, but I am SO glad I did.
Getting that wedding day “glow” that everyone talks about isn’t really about tanning. I’m sure a lot of girls tan before the big day, but that’s not what the glow is about. Leading up to your wedding day, you are under a ton of stress. Remember to treat your body right. Exercise, eat right, and keep your skin healthy. Keeping your skin healthy will give you a glow on any day.
For a long time I went back and forth between different skincare products because nothing really worked for me. I heard from a friend about Rodan+Fields, which I wrote off because they created ProActiv and that didn’t work for me…until I saw my friend’s skin after a week or so of using it. So I gave in, bought one of the regimens, and started using it. This is not a lie…it is the ONLY thing that has cleared my skin and actually done all the things it promises to do. So, here are a few things from R+F you might want to try.
1. Macro Exfoliator
5 minutes, once a week, is supposed to sweep away 5 million dead skin cells. That makes a HUGE difference in the appearance of your skin.
2. One of the Full Regimens
I use the Redefine Regimen, but I suggest doing a a Skin Solution Tool to figure out which is best for you.
3. Foaming Sunless Tan
I am absolutely, completely against tanning. Not only does it age your skin, it also puts you at risk for skin cancer. At the same time, I’m skeptical of most tanning lotions. This is one of the few that have worked for me. (I am very fair skinned)
4. Body/Paste Micro-Dermabrasion
I don’t really have time for a spa appointment every week, but this makes up for it. The Body Micro-Dermabrasion is for use in the shower 2-3 times a week. The Micro-Dermabrasion Paste is like a face scrub. You use it in place of your cleanser 1-3 times a week. If you can’t afford the Macro-Exfoliator (I couldn’t when I was buying the first regimen), these two items are a great alternative.
There ya go! These are my skin secrets that I swear by. You can do the Skin Solution Tool & buy products here: http://ciera.myrandf.com
-Southern Wedding Style
Alright, let’s just take a minute and admit that planning a wedding is SUPER stressful. Even with wedding planners. And even for a wedding blogger. No matter what, you will cry and/or want to kick someone out of your wedding party at some point. You probably won’t actually do that, but things will get pretty emotional at times, no matter how prepared you are.
So, I’ve put together my list of things that help calm the storm when choosing a flower arrangement is the most important decision you’ll ever make, but you just can’t decide.
1. Take a deep breath.
It sounds cheesy, because everyone says it. But my fiancé tells me to do this when I’m having a serious meltdown or crying over the smallest things and it works. It really does. It make take a few breaths, but it works. Just stop, forget about whatever is freaking you out, and breath.
2. Close your planning binder & go watch a movie/tv show.
Sitting in front of your computer going through all your wedding stuff for hours is exhausting. You will get overwhelmed if you don’t take a break. And once you start getting overwhelmed, you won’t be able to get anything done. So stop, pull up Netflix, and watch a movie or favorite tv show. Here are my go-to favorites: Clueless, Mean Girls, The Office, Parks and Rec, Once Upon a Time, and any trashy reality tv.
*tip: Watching anything wedding related (Say Yes to the Dress, My Fair Wedding, etc.) probably won’t help.
3. Take a nap.
Some people are totally against naps, so this may not work for everyone. But I am all for a mid-day nap, especially when I’m stressed to the max. I’m not saying you should curl up and sleep until 8pm. Just take a little power nap. That’s different for everyone. Some people like 20 min. naps, others prefer a little longer. Personally, 20 min. naps just make me even more tired. I usually take an hour long nap and then get back to whatever I was working on.
4. Take on a different (fun) task.
This could be cooking, baking, grocery shopping, working out, etc. Those are just the things that usually work for me. Anything fun that will get your mind off wedding planning for a while is good.
5. Stop checking your email.
I’m not saying you should stop checking your email for weeks while all these important things pile up. That’s definitely not a good idea. Just take a few hours (or even a day) off from email. People do it all the time, so I promise it won’t kill you. I’ve done this multiple times during the planning process. Going back and forth all day with my planners, photographer, florist, and whoever else is in the mix, gets really tiring. It’s okay to take a day off and answer all those people the next day. They’ll understand. You don’t have to explain to them that you were too overwhelmed to look at emails. Just simply say “Sorry it took me a bit to get back with you” or “Sorry I didn’t get back with you yesterday”.
6. Look at your honeymoon plans.
This really depends on what you’re doing for your honeymoon, I guess. My fiancé and I are spending at week at Disney World for our honeymoon. So when I’m stressed, I look up our honeymoon plans and sometimes add reservations for shows or dinner. Other times I might just look up the special things they do for newlyweds. It’s a nice reminder that no matter how our wedding day turns out, we get to go on this amazing honeymoon afterwards, and I get to spend forever with my best friend. That’s really what it’s all about.
7. Have a date night with your fiancé.
This is another way to remind yourself what this is really all about. Get fancied up and go somewhere nice. Wear your comfy clothes, order in, and have dinner on the living room floor. Or just go on a simple dinner and movie date. Spending time with your fiancé without all the wedding talk is so important (for both of you).
-Southern Wedding Style
First off, I’d like to tell you a bit about why I started Ballet Beautiful. When I started working out for my wedding, it was going great! I was running everyday, lifting weights to work my arms and back (I was determined to have zero “back fat” on the wedding day), and swimming after my workouts to cool down. Then I went in for my first fitting and got a very unpleasant surprise…they couldn’t zip up the dress over my upper back! During all those arm/back workouts, I had gained so much muscle that I was broader towards the top. In all those “back fat” pinterest workouts, they never mention that happening. So…my seamstress scheduled another fitting for two weeks later and told me to focus on stretching and getting long and lean muscles. Apparently, she has had a lot of brides with this problem. I happened to have a Ballet Beautiful dvd at home that I had yet to try out.
So for the next two weeks I did a bit of cardio and slowly worked Ballet Beautiful into my schedule. I was terribly nervous going into my second fitting, even though my seamstress assured me it would fit this time. I went to put on my dress and not only did it zip right up, it was loose in the places where it used to be a bit snug!
I had read on the reviews that normally, you’ll see results from Ballet Beautiful in 1-2 weeks, but I honestly did not believe it. Now I plan on sticking with Ballet Beautiful until the wedding and probably long after. There’s multiple dvds and new ones are released quite often, so I don’t have to worry about getting bored.
Now here’s a bit about Ballet Beautiful:
1. Ballet Beautiful was founded and is taught by Mary Helen Bowers. She is a professional ballerina, who danced in the New York City Ballet for 10 years.
2. BUT, you don’t need any ballet or dance experience to do Ballet Beautiful. It is very easy to catch on to and Mary Helen does a great job of explaining everything along the way. (I was able to do things without her instruction after the first two sessions)
3. A leotard and soft leather split sole ballet shoes are recommended, but are not necessary. I find it much easier to do a lot of the exercises wearing the ballet shoes.
4. All of the DVDs are currently available on amazon (links at bottom). If you have amazon prime, there are two you can try out for free!
5. You can do Private Training at the Ballet Beautiful studio in Manhattan or via Ballet Beautiful Live. I haven’t looked into this much, but if I ever get bored with the DVDs, I might.
6. For $39.99/month, you can get two new workouts each month with a Custom Workout Subscription. This also includes unlimited access to the streaming library.
7. If you’re getting a late start to your pre-wedding workouts, this is perfect! You really do start seeing results within the first week!
Sculpt & Burn Cardio Blast
Cardio Fat Burn
Total Body Workout
DIY WEDDING PLANNING BINDER
My wedding may not be until August of next year, but I’m already planning and ready to go with my wedding planning binder. I plan ahead and make to-do lists for everything, so my wedding is no exception! I am so thankful for this already. It has made planning so much easier. Here is everything I’ve included in my planning binder!
Binder: I started out with a pretty small binder, but I quickly realized that was not going to work! I now have a three inch ring binder.
Cover: I wanted to make the binder cute, so I downloaded a free monogram printable for the cover. You can choose from different colors and designs here:
*Before any of my dividers I have a page protector with an invitation sample, program sample, and kids book sample (I’ll talk about that in another post), along with a master Wedding Planning Checklist starting at 18 months before the wedding.*
Calendar-I obviously have my calendar in this divider. I downloaded cute calendar printouts and added post its to each month with what needs to be done during that time. You can get the calendar printouts in different colors and prints here:
Budget: I’m keeping track of my budget spending on my computer, but it’s also nice to have it with me and written out in my planning binder with everything else. You really don’t need this section, but I prefer to have it.
Guest List: This is another thing that will also be kept track of on my computer and in my planning binder. It may seem like a waste of time, but I just like to have things all in one place.
Contracts: I keep copies of any contracts I sign with vendors or anyone else in this section along with payment due dates.
Vendors: In this section I keep a list of all vendors and everything they’ll be doing. I also have a page protector with vendor business cards and brochures. It’s nice to have all the vendor info all in one place.
Decor: This section is SO important for me. I’m doing DIY decor for the most part, so I need this to keep track of all the websites I’m ordering from and everything I’m planning to make/have made so far.
Gifts/Favors: This section is for all the info on guest favors and wedding party gifts. I already know what I’m doing for most of this, so I’m glad I have this section.
Party Plans: Bachelorette Party/Bridal Shower/Lingerie Shower/Rehearsal Dinner info will all be collected in this section. I have checklists for different parties and subdividers so everything stays separated.
Ceremony: The order of events, Music, Wedding Party, etc. This section basically has all the details of the ceremony. I have most of the details figured out, so this section is very detailed already.
Reception: First dance music, the set up of everything, basically any details you think need to be specified and remembered. For me, that means every little detail.
Registry: This section is very important for us. We’re going to have two separate registries. One for traditional gifts, and one for our honeymoon. I want to be able to keep track of how our honeymoon registry is coming along in the same place as our traditional registry.
Honeymoon: I have a Honeymoon Planning checklist and a Honeymoon Packing Checklist in this section. I’m all about the checklists!
Misc./Notes: In this section I have a list for making a Wedding Day Emergency Kit along with Wedding Essentials Packing Checklist for the bride and groom.
Did you/do you plan to make your wedding planning binder? Is there anything you would add? Let me know!
-Southern Wedding Style
I just have to apologize for being absent from my blog for so long. My life has been pretty crazy lately. But it’s finally starting to slow down a bit (although I will be leaving for vacation soon).
My first post back is going to be a DIY. I put my wedding planning binder together a month and I’ve been super excited to share it with y’all!
I’m so happy to be back!
-Southern Wedding Style
So Much Exciting News!
But one thing at a time. :) First, we finally got our proposal pictures back. Here’s a mini timeline of how everything happened. I absolutely love everything about these photos.
Second, I’ve been offered a Summer internship with a Wedding Planning & Design Studio in Nashville! I was kind of iffy about doing it considering I’m about to start planning my own wedding and I already have a job, but seriously how fun would a wedding planning internship be?
It will start early summer so as long as everything works out, I’m hoping to start posting more on tips I pick up on during the internship. Until then, a new Polyvore set will be up tomorrow!
-Southern Wedding Style
I’m Engaged, Y’all!
I’m engaged, I’m engaged, and I don’t care who knows it! (Elf reference, anyone?) As any newly engaged girl would be, I am on cloud nine and still in shock. I debated on whether or not I should tell the story on here since I never really post anything related to my personal life, but I decided the story was just too good not to tell! :) So here it is:
This past saturday was our six month anniversary and my amazing boyfriend (now fiancé!) had the wonderful idea of recreating our first date, which was a picnic at Arrington Vineyards during Music in the Vines. I absolutely love picnics and cute things like recreating first dates, so I was super excited! Even the same band from our first date was booked to play again!
This was one of the first saturdays they were back open for Music in the Vines so it was pretty packed, unlike our first date. We finally found an open picnic table at the top of a hill, right in the middle of what looked like a wedding party cleaning up (ironically). We really were recreating our first date step-by-step starting with a picnic, then walking a bit up to a tree swing to sit together and talk, etc. After talking for awhile, he left for a minute to “go to the restroom” in the wine tasting/restaurant building just a little down the hill.
I wanted to stay and hang out on the tree swing to enjoy the view because I knew the line would be long (just like our first date). Little did I know, he was actually leaving to call a friend who was supposed to be there to photograph the proposal!
Not long after that, we took the long trek downhill to the parking area to put all the picnic stuff away so we could walk around and listen to the band. On the way back, he mentioned wanting to take a photo in front of the big “Arrington Vineyards” barrel sign.
When we got to the sign there was couple having their picture taken, so we had to wait a little bit. Once they were finished, they offered to take our photo so he handed them his iPhone as I figured out a place for us to stand.
I was still getting situated when I looked up and saw the girl was taking photos with her camera instead of his phone, so I just kept fixing my hair and such. From there, here’s how everything went:
Boyfriend: *nudging me* “Hey, she’s taking pictures. Look up.”
Me: “No she’s using her camera, see? She’s probably still taking pictures of scenery.”
Boyfriend: *looking down at me smiling* “I love you, and you’re my favorite…”
Me: *I thought he was just talking to me while we waited for her to finish, so before he finished I replied saying: “I love you, too!”
Boyfriend: *Getting down on one knee & pulling out a ring* “Will you marry me?”
Me: A huge gasp, jumping back, crying, saying yes, etc. I was in total shock!
And of course, a ton of hugging and kissing and “I love you” afterwards.
I LOVE my ring! I didn’t want a diamond or a typical shape/cut. I love Morganite because it’s naturally that blush pink color and that’s what he got me! In the photo it looks peach colored, but it’s more of a blush pink.
It turns out the girl taking photos wasn’t the girl he had asked to be there (she was running late) but it worked out perfectly because they were there and had cameras and since I didn’t know them, I didn’t expect it at all!
The rest of the date was full of photos, listening to the band and getting messages from our friends and family. Everything was perfect!
Are you recently engaged? Tell your story in the submit section and I might post it as a feature!
-Southern Wedding Style